- ‘you shouldn’t feel this bad’
- ‘you’re over-reacting’
- ‘it’s not as bad as you think’
What not to do when someone is telling you their problems?
- Don’t tell them that it is JUST a small matter. …
- Don’t tell them that they are being too emotional. …
- Don’t tell them what they did wrong. …
- Don’t try to fix things. …
- Don’t just say OK.
What do you say when someone talks about their problems?
Sharing their own reactions: “
I’m so sorry
, “I’m so angry,” “I feel so helpless; I wish there was something I could do,” or even “I don’t know what to say.” Creating space for your pain: “Do you want to talk about it?” “It’s OK to cry,” or, “We don’t have to talk; I’m happy to just sit here with you.”
How do you help someone with problems?
- Listen without making judgements and concentrate on their needs in that moment.
- Ask them what would help them.
- Reassure and signpost to practical information or resources.
- Avoid confrontation.
- Ask if there is someone they would like you to contact.
How do you respond to a problem?
- (Four) Options for Responding to Any Problem:
- (1) Solve the problem. Leave, get out of the situation for good, or change the situation.
- (2) Feel better about the problem. Regulate your emotional response to the problem.
- (3) Tolerate the problem. …
- (4) Stay miserable.
What can you say to make someone feel better?
- “Whenever you need to call, I’m here.” …
- “I wish I could be there right now.” …
- “You’re still in my thoughts. …
- “Your family is lucky to have you through all this.” …
- “Maybe I can’t be there, but there’s definitely something I can do. …
- “Hey, get well soon. …
- “You’re doing a great job with a major responsibility.
What to say to someone who is suffering?
- Tell Them You Care. …
- Remind Them You’re There for Them. …
- Ask How You Can Help. …
- Urge Them to Talk With a Doctor. …
- Ask Them If They Want to Talk. …
- Remind Them That They Matter. …
- Tell Them You Understand (If You Really Do) …
- Remind Them It’s OK to Feel This Way.
What to say back to someone who insulted you?
- 5 Effective Ways to Respond to Backhanded Compliments. This is how to reply when someone offers an insult disguised as a compliment. …
- Ignore it. Staying silent doesn’t mean you’re letting yourself get pushed around. …
- Say, “Thank you.” …
- Acknowledge the positive portion. …
- Address the insult head-on. …
- Keep your sense of humor.
What to say to someone who has hurt you deeply?
First, objectively summarize the situation that hurt you. Then,
identify the feeling it triggered in you
. Finally, explain your thoughts about the feeling. So for example, you might try, “Yesterday, you gave me a lot of unsolicited advice about a problem I’m having at work.
What is it called when someone tries to make you feel bad for them?
They turn the story around to make it seem like you are at fault, deflecting attention and blame away from them to make you feel guilty. This type of emotional manipulation is called
gaslighting
. … Gaslighting can come from a romantic partner, a boss, a friend, or anyone else.
How do you help someone in difficult times?
- Silence speaks louder than words misspoken. Don’t ignore them. …
- Don’t make them ask you for help. Do they need help? …
- Don’t rush them through their pain. …
- Don’t give unsolicited advice. …
- Don’t give them magic formulas. …
- Don’t make it about yourself. …
- Don’t forget the person.
How do you comfort someone?
- 1. “ Witness their feelings” …
- Affirm that their feelings make sense. …
- Draw out their feelings inorder to better understand what they feel. …
- Don’t minimize their pain or focus only on cheering them up. …
- Offer physical affection if appropriate. …
- Affirm your support and commitment.
What to do if you have no one to talk to?
Find Good Social Media Groups
(Facebook & Instagram) Because you are the only one feeling you have no one to talk to and a lot of others could be met online through great social media pages. From mental health support to meaningful talking, you may want to take some time and find the right page for yourself.
Is it rude to say what’s your problem?
What’s your problem may sound rude
, and so I wouldn’t use it in writing to avoid misunderstanding. But in speech, it will depends entirely on expression and tone of voice: “Hey, sunshine! What’s your problem?”, shouted at a stranger, is looking for an argument.
How do you respond to someone not doing well?
A simple, ‘
I’m sorry to hear that’
is a good response. You might follow this up with, ‘would you like to talk about it? ‘ to open up the conversation if the time and situation is appropriate. If not, agree on a more suitable time to talk.
How do you handle a challenge best answer?
- Consider previous challenges you’ve faced. …
- Tailor your answer to the job description. …
- Be specific about why they were challenges. …
- Be honest. …
- Make sure your answers present you in a positive light. …
- Use nonprofessional examples if necessary.