What Enneagram should a 7 marry? In a Seven-Nine partnership, the free-spirited Sevens and agreeable Nines are an upbeat couple with a sunny, positive disposition.
How do I pair my Enneagram 7?
What are 7s afraid of?
Deepest Fear: Sevens fear
getting stuck in a rut and missing out on the good life
. They cope with this fear by constantly seeking out exciting, novel, and fun experiences. Core Motivations: More than anything, Sevens want to avoid feeling bored, sad or uninspired.
Do Enneagram 7s have commitment issues?
A false narrative about Sevens is that they don't or can't commit to relationships, and this is not true. Like everyone else,
Sevens can have great, committed relationships that are real
. However, there are type-based obstacles that get in their way.
Where do 7s go in stress?
Type 7 Under Stress
When 7s are stressed,
they first dip into their unhealthy traits as a 7
(unfocused, indulgent, escapist). However, after that level, if they are still stressed or the stress increases they will move towards type 1 and pick up the average to unhealthy traits of 1.
Strengths:
Type Nines
are often called the “darling” of the Enneagram, says Hall.
However,
average Sevens are not really narcissistic
; they may be selfish, self-centered, greedy, insensitive, and so forth, but they do not have an inflated sense of self-worth. Instead, Sevens inflate their desires, appetites, plans, and the glut of their possessions.
Because Sevens busy themselves by self-referencing their feelings, especially on what makes them feel good,
they have an internal locus of control
.
About RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY OF NUMBER 7 WITH NUMBER 7
7 is a lucky number for a majority of people.
The two 7s combined together are considered to be extremely auspicious
. The couple may at times be too absorbed in their own affairs and be unable to communicate with each other.
Enneagram 7s feel drained at work when…
They are stuck or bored in their position
. Their boss gives them small, repetitive assignments. Their peers are distant and reserved. Their direct reports lack energy and optimism.
Among personality types,
type 2
had the highest empathy scores in this study. This finding can be explained by type 2's essence. According to the Enneagram theory, type 2's essential quality is unconditional love [19]. These individuals search for intimate relationships, and they are caring and loving.
About COMPATIBILITY OF NUMBER 7 AND NUMBER 8
7 and 8:
There are some relationships that have a fiery physical compatibility but lack the emotional compatibility
; this is one of those matches. These two individuals may enjoy the sexual relationship but are not fortunate enough to develop a strong emotional bonding.
Fives
exert the most control by setting absolute boundaries around themselves and not letting others in.
Bringing everyone to the table and letting others be heard is the superpower of
Type 9s
, which makes them the most powerful type in the Enneagram.
According to Riso in his book Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery,
Type Seven
can be insensitive to others' needs while they pursue their own desire for fun and try to avoid anxiety and other difficult feelings.
Though it is incredibly hard, the 7 needs to
confront their pain fully, without diffusing it, ignoring it, or downplaying it through jokes
. They need other types to walk beside them up this road and help them face it.
Fours are most likely to report being paired with Nines
, which is a well-known Enneagram match; Fours are likely to appreciate the gentle stability of the Nine. However, Nines more commonly report being attached to Ones, Eights, and Threes, so this attraction may not be as significant for them as it is for the Four.
