What Is The Main Reason For Infidelity?

by | Last updated on January 24, 2024

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According to experts, one of the most common causes of infidelity is

a sense of emotional disconnection from your partner

. As per research from the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, 35 percent of women and 45 percent of men have had emotional affairs outside their primary relationship.

Why is infidelity considered bad?

Getting cheated on is one of the most devastating and damaging things that can happen in a person’s life. It can lead to

emotional distress

, anxiety, depression, an increase in risk-taking behavior and actual physical pain. A partner’s infidelity can even change our brain chemistry.

Why is infidelity such a big deal?

Why is infidelity within marriage considered to be such a big deal?

Because it involves deceiving and betraying the person who is (supposedly) the most important adult in your life

. It means that your promises are invalid and that you cannot be trusted.

Why is cheating so addicting?

According to psychologist and relationship researcher Scott Haltzmann, infidelity is a “flame addiction.” A person having an affair craves the other person, wanting to experience the same addictive behavior repeatedly. This is due to a series of

complex neurological, chemical, and hormonal changes

.

Why do people cheat on people they love?

Some people cheat when they want something different in their relationship or feel like things have become a bit too comfortable. They may

desire variety in their sex lives

or maybe some kind of adventure to offset their routine life.

Can you really love someone and still cheat on them?

So it’s possible to feel deep attachment to a long-term partner at the same time you feel intense romantic love toward someone else and even also feel sexual attraction toward another person, Fisher said. … And that’s why, Fisher says,

some people may cheat on their partner

.

What are the signs of infidelity?

  • Improved appearance. …
  • Secretive phone or computer use. …
  • Periods where your significant other is unreachable. …
  • Significantly less, or more, or different sex in your relationship. …
  • Your partner is hostile toward you and your relationship. …
  • An altered schedule.

Do men regret cheating?

Another truth: Men have varying levels of remorse and guilt after cheating, whether their partners know anything about their affairs or not. Sometimes, when a man feels guilty for cheating, he is being eaten away. He feels deep remorse and regret. … Some had

no regrets

about the cheating whatsoever.

Does adultery include kissing?

Legally,

adultery only covers sexual intercourse

, which means behaviours such as kissing, webcam, virtual, and “emotional adultery” do not count for the purposes of getting divorced. This makes adultery very hard to prove if your spouse will not admit to it.

What is the problem with infidelity?

Infidelity is unfaithfulness in a marriage or relationship. It

can severely strain a relationship and the people involved

. An affair can leave the other person feeling devastated, alone, betrayed, and confused. Sometimes, an affair ends a relationship.

What does cheating do to the brain?

Your brain takes a beating.

Neuroscience has shown that the

rejection

from infidelity has both short- and long-term consequences to brain chemistry. Because love is actually as addictive to the brain as cocaine, being cut off by the dagger of infidelity impacts the addictive neural pathways in similar ways.

Do emotional affairs ever work?


Yes

, in rare cases some affairs last a lifetime. But even those rare cases are relationships that are built off of an affair. That’s no way to start off on a relationship. Plus, the chances of one of those people having an affair on someone else is just as great, if not greater.

Why are affairs so hard to end?

First, affairs are often a replication waiting to happen. And second,

affairs are often forged with the same magnetic power that a marriage is

, often rendering the affair as hard to break as a marriage. Thus, ending an affair, especially if it is long-term, may resemble a divorce.

Do cheaters cheat again?

Experts say no. Relationship counselors have seen many couples persevere through cheating and

the cheater never cheat again

. On the other hand, the opposite happens just as often. According to some studies, someone who has cheated before is 3x more likely to cheat again in their next relationship.

Should you forgive a cheater?

When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish and never forgive. It’s hard to let go of those feelings. Nonetheless,

forgiving

someone for cheating will actually benefit the faithful person more than the cheater. … Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way to move on.

How does being cheated on affect a man?

Getting cheated on is one of the most devastating and damaging things that can happen in a person’s life. It can lead to

emotional distress, anxiety, depression

, an increase in risk-taking behavior and actual physical pain. A partner’s infidelity can even change our brain chemistry.

Leah Jackson
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Leah Jackson
Leah is a relationship coach with over 10 years of experience working with couples and individuals to improve their relationships. She holds a degree in psychology and has trained with leading relationship experts such as John Gottman and Esther Perel. Leah is passionate about helping people build strong, healthy relationships and providing practical advice to overcome common relationship challenges.