Why Do Some People Justify Cheating?

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Some people justify their infidelity by

convincing themselves they never cheated

. As long as they don't break their own self-generated rules regarding extramarital involvement, then they avoid feeling like they've done anything wrong. While these people are committed to stay, they are not committed not to stray.

Do you really love someone if you cheat on them?

The short answer is yes,

you can be in love with someone and still cheat on them

, and here's why… … Are you feeling the destruction of being cheated on, and asking yourself how this could have happened when you believe that your partner loves you?

Can you ever justify cheating?

The only way can be justified is

if the reasons behind the actions matter to you as a couple

(or to you as an individual). Some people find the act of cheating unforgivable, regardless of the reasons behind it.

Is cheating once forgivable?

If your partner cheats, but

it only happened one time

, it may be possible to forgive. “If it's not a pattern, then a couple can certainly move past it as long as certain promises are made,” Bennett says.

Does cheating ever work out?

In practice,

it tends to be uncommon for a relationship to survive instances of cheating

. One study found that only about 16 percent of couples who'd experienced unfaithfulness were able to work it out.

Why do people cheat on people they love?

Why do people cheat on people they love?

Because they want to be accepted, respected, loved, wanted, or praised

(the things they likely feel they aren't getting in their current relationship). The reasons vary from person-to-person, but they're all about a need the person is trying to get met.

Do cheaters cheat again?

Experts say no. Relationship counselors have seen many couples persevere through cheating and

the cheater never cheat again

. On the other hand, the opposite happens just as often. According to some studies, someone who has cheated before is 3x more likely to cheat again in their next relationship.

Do cheaters deserve a second chance?

Should you give a cheater a second chance? It

depends on how the cheater acts after the infidelity

. If your partner is truly remorseful and wants to work on themselves and the relationship, then it is possible for the two of you to begin rebuilding the relationship.

Does cheating partner forgive?

When someone cheats on you, your mind and emotions scream at you to hate, punish and never forgive. It's hard to let go of those feelings. Nonetheless, forgiving someone for cheating

will actually benefit the faithful

person more than the cheater. … Forgiveness is the antidote and the only way to move on.

Should you forgive a liar?

If a person lies, and is unrepentant about it,

you are under no obligation to forgive

. If the liar is sorry, you still do not have to forgive. … Even if the other person is genuinely sorry, some grave matters may not or should not be forgiven in the sense of “everything between us completely is all right again”.

What traits do cheaters have?

  • He's secretive, especially about his phone. …
  • He's no mama's boy. …
  • He's insecure. …
  • He's forgetful. …
  • He's a narcissist. …
  • He's less affectionate. …
  • He's got vices. …
  • He's charming.

How many relationships end with cheating?

What percentage of marriages end because of cheating? According to the American Psychological Association, infidelity in the United States is responsible for

20% to 40% of divorces

.

Can you ever trust a cheater?

“Once the couple understands each other's relationship concerns and the one who cheated is remorseful, trust is again possible.” Sometimes the recovery process can result in a relationship that is stronger than ever before.

Do cheaters get their karma?


Yes

, there is karma for cheaters. … But instead of wishing for karma to bite them, it's better to work on yourself and understand some things that you do have control over. You can in turn heal and better yourself while karma does its thing.

Can a relationship go back to normal after cheating?

Experts say

it's possible for couples to go on to have a happy relationship after infidelity

, provided they're willing to put in the work. … But couples who do decide to separate after an can still benefit from therapy, especially if they have children.

What it feels like to be cheated on?

You might be unaware of the consequences of your actions, but let me tell you, for someone who has been cheated on, it will always be some sort of reminder to them –

it will always haunt them

. It is a concoction of heartbreak, anger, regret, anxiety, and shame all rolled into one.

Leah Jackson
Author
Leah Jackson
Leah is a relationship coach with over 10 years of experience working with couples and individuals to improve their relationships. She holds a degree in psychology and has trained with leading relationship experts such as John Gottman and Esther Perel. Leah is passionate about helping people build strong, healthy relationships and providing practical advice to overcome common relationship challenges.